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Motivation to Look Good

Waited until the last minute AGAIN to write my contribution to HOPEFUL PARENTS  & here it is   One of the things that I deal with a lot is Jacob's appearance. He's what I call a "shulb", always content to wear the same wrinkled t-shirt and sweatpants with holes in the knees.  He likes to limit his shaving to once a week.  His hygiene is pretty good, but he usually uses as little toothpaste as possible and almost every morning he asks me to smell his hair to see if it needs washing.  He's a nice looking young man, but I sometimes I think of how he could have movie-star good looks if only he'd work out and shop for some cool clothes. Jacob and I have been enrolled in a program called  Relationship Development Intervention  for a few years now, and I absolutely love it.  It has really helped to remove the conflicts that used to be common between us.  With the help of our RDI consultant, Chris Mulligan, I learned that I was constantly telling Jacob wh